良好的人際關係讓人更快樂

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學會和人打交道。圓融人際關係。人終其一生，根本的目的是追求快樂和幸福，無論你多麼自私，也離不開這個終極目標。而和諧處理好人際關係，是確保這目的實現的關鍵。哈佛大學持續了78年，耗資2000多萬美元，人類歷史上著名的“格蘭特研究”，已經證實了，獲得真正人生贏家的人，正是那些有能力獲得良好人際關係的人。 「良好的人際關係讓人更快樂、更健康」。這也從另一個面向提示我們，讓人舒服的程度，成就人生的高度。

「自私」藝術的本質，其實是人人為我，我為人人，是既在意自我，也不忽略他人存在的分寸的把握，是透過有取有予，取予平衡來實現的。當一個人的「自私」的藝術，提高到一定程度的時候，他可以從別人身上獲得很多東西，神奇的是，要么人們甘心情願地給予，如粉絲對偶像一般，要么付出的人沒有感受自己失去了什麼。

「自私」的藝術在於藝術的「自私」。

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Learn to deal with people. Harmonious interpersonal relationships. The fundamental purpose of human life is to pursue happiness and joy. No matter how selfish you are, you cannot escape this ultimate goal. Harmoniously handling interpersonal relationships is the key to ensuring the realization of this goal. The famous "Grant Study" in human history, which lasted 78 years at Harvard University and cost more than 20 million US dollars, has confirmed that the real winners in life are those who have the ability to establish good interpersonal relationships. “Good relationships make people happier and healthier.” This also reminds us from another perspective that the degree to which people feel comfortable determines the height of their achievements in life.

The essence of the art of "selfishness" is actually that everyone is for me and I am for everyone. It is a sense of proportion that cares about oneself while not neglecting the existence of others. It is achieved through giving and taking, and balancing giving and taking. When a person's art of "selfishness" improves to a certain level, he can get a lot from others. The magical thing is that either people give willingly, like fans to their idols, or the person who gives does not feel that he has lost anything.

The art of "selfishness" lies in the "selfishness" of art.